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Do You Know a Narcissist?
Have you ever had the misfortune of being around a narcissist? You can usually pick them out because they are the one who cannot stop talking about themselves. I am not referring to the basic human need of being proud of a job well-done. I am referring to the narcissist who thinks the sun rises and falls on them, the one who things everything is “all about them”.
If you have ever had to deal with a narcissist, then you know what I am talking about. These people are annoying, at best. They are egotistical and grate on people’s nerves. Narcissists are the types of people I try to avoid.
Narcissism Defined
Narcissism – 1. Excessive love or admiration for oneself. 2. A psychological condition characterized by self-preoccupation, lack of empathy, and unconscious deficits in self-esteem. 3. Erotic pleasure derived from contemplation or admiration of one’s own body or self, especially as a fixation on or a regression to an infantile stage of development. 4. The attribute of the human psyche characterized by admiration of oneself but within normal limits.
(as defined by TheFreeDictionary.com)
Other similar words include conceited, egotist, self-centered, selfish, self-loving, vain, stuck-up, and prideful.
Identifying a Narcissist
A narcissist is not hard to spot if you know what to look for. While not all narcissists come across as narcissistic at first, it is a matter of time before this beast rears its ugly head.
There are some notable characteristics of a narcissist, which are quite funny (and irritating) for the people who are subjected to being around them.
Narcissists are always right about everything. It does not matter if the sky is blue. If a narcissist sees the sky as green, he will be right, even if you show him proof in a science book. Narcissists dominate everyone and everything. They believe their ways are correct and are so narrow-minded that no other way could possibly be the right way.
Everyone else is always wrong. This goes hand-in-hand with the fact that they are always right about everything. I don’t need to explain it. If you choose to feed the narcissist, plan to enter into a battle zone.
Narcissists are rarely happy. They will whine and complain about every tiny injustice they feel has been done to them. I am not sure why this is, but my theory is that narcissists think they are so wonderful yet cannot figure out why they can never life up to their own expectations. Narcissists find happiness in trying to cause others feel as if they are inferior to them.
Narcissists never forget. If you make a mistake, a narcissist will not let you forget about it. They take everything personally and feel that every mistake another person makes is directed right at themselves. You cannot escape the wrath of a narcissist.
They have no conscious. Narcissists can appear, at first, to be extremely nice people, until you get to know them. If they make a mistake, they will be sure to blame it on someone else. They are incapable of taking responsibility for their actions. They say one thing and do another.
Narcissists will twist everything you say and do. Honesty means nothing to a narcissist. You can be honest with them about your feelings, but they will use the information as ammunition against you.
Narcissists can be verbally abusive, maybe even physically, but will throw a tantrum if you DARE to challenge them.
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How to Drive a Narcissist Nuts discusses ways to outsmart a narcissist and drive him bonkers.
Avoid the Narcissist
Word to the wise, there is little you can do to help a narcissist, so focus on yourself. I have learned you will never make him happy, so stop wasting your time. They like the game of “Cat and Mouse” and jump on each and every chance to pick on someone else. No matter how much you argue the truth with a narcissist, they are going to argue with you no matter what the real truth is. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, they will give love and take it away as a way to control those around him.
Dealing with a narcissist can be challenging, nerve-wracking, and downright exhausting. They are the type of person that others nod their head at in agreement, just so they will go away so you can FINALLY roll your eyes, take a deep breath, and exhale. It will not help to rationalize their behavior or try to figure out why they do what they do.
My suggestion? Avoid them, if you are able to. If you cannot avoid a narcissist, earplugs are a fantastic way of blocking out sound as well as make a subtle point. Sometimes, narcissists are unavoidable as you may be working for one or married to one.
If you are married to one, I am very sorry. You are a stronger person than me. I chose divorce over being subjected to the constant abuse.
Also, visit Narcissism Support Resources for additional information about narcissists
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